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	HOLIDAY OFFER! 50% OFF on all Valley of the Sun books and CDs Go to www.prohypnosis2.com to find details on over 300 life-changing titles. REDUCED FALL PRICING for Six Hypnotherapy 1-Hour Phone Sessions with Dick Sutphen: *was $695 now $495.Three Hypnotherapy Phone Sessions -- $275. Limited-time offer. Write for appointments: sutphenseminars@hotmail.com / Sessions are custom tailored to your needs. This is only for one-hour phone sessions, usually spaced at one session a week. SPECIAL OFFERING: A 4-HOUR SESSION WITH DICK AND TARA SUTPHEN in the Westlake Village, CA office. You’ll experience hypnotherapy, psychic and shamanistic explorations and Tara’s “Life-Force Activation.” sutphenseminars@hotmail.com HUMAN POTENTIAL: The Cause of Suffering We learn fastest through pain. It’s what karma is all about. If you were to get punched in the nose every time you walked trough a yellow door, eventually (if you have any sense) you'll learn to stop walking through yellow doors. If you burn your finger every time you touch a hot stove, eventually you'll learn to stop touching hot stoves. If you make yourself miserable for years (or lifetimes) when other people don't live up to your expectations, eventually you'll learn that it's your expectations -- not other people -- that are making you miserable. When your expectations are in conflict with what is, you resist what is and become upset. The following are some Bushido seminar dialogues form our recording files that explore the concept from different perspectives. In the seminar, if people want to interact, a runner brings them a microphone and the dialogue can be heard by the rest of the audience. 1. "Just because I resist my boss doesn't mean that I'm losing the game," said Judy, a conservatively dressed woman in her mid-thirties. "It does if you're being passed over for promotion," I replied. "But my boss is an idiot." "And he's your boss. That's what is. I don't think you're going to change that unless you quit." But it's ridiculous. You can’t imagine how bad this guy is," she said, twisting the microphone cable for emphasis. "Judy, what is, is that he's your boss. He probably won't recommend you for a raise or a promotion. Your expectations are the problem." “Damned right they are. I expect him not to be an asshole.” “But what is, is that he’s an asshole.” “Right.” “Right.” “Well, it’s time he changed,” she said, frowning at me. “Is that realistic?” “Probably not.” “Well, we know what you’ve lost as a result of your resistance. What have you gained or will you gain?” She paused and looked up the ceiling, then down at the floor. “Nothing, I guess.” “You get to be right about your boss being an asshole, but you lose the game. That doesn’t work, does it? Wouldn’t it be smarter to win the game.” “But he’s an asshole.” “JUDY! BE LOGICAL. GET IT.” “I get it, but I don’t like it. It’s not fair. “Where does it say life’s supposed to be fair?” “If I accept your self-actualized ideas, I wouldn’t have anything left to talk about.” “Wrong, you wouldn’t have anything left to gripe about. 2. “Are you saying you have to accept total responsibility for your feelings?” James asked. In his late forties, he was very distinguished looking, dressed in slacks, a white shirt, red tie and dark-blue blazer. “Yes,” I said. “Okay, I was recently divorced and my ex-wife put me through the wringer. Doesn’t she share some responsibility for the negativity I experienced?” “She didn’t live up to your expectations of how a dear, departing wife should act?” “Oh, come on,” he snapped “You want to blame her?” Before he could respond, I said, “Blame is self-pity.” “All I am saying is I’m not a hundred percent responsible for my feelings.” “This is a cliché, James, but I’ll say it anyway. Short of physical violence, it isn’t what someone says to you or does to you that affects you, it’s what you add it. It’s what you think about what they said or did that affects you.” “Her getting the house and newer car affected me.” “Really?” “Yes, really.” He was beginning to get very upset. “This is a community property state. Didn’t you get your half?” “Yes, but not the house and car. That affected me.” “You chose to let it affect you. What did you get?” “Our investments and the second car.” “And you couldn’t sell the investments and buy another house?” He crossed his arms and did not respond . “James, when a married couple gets divorced in California, each person gets half. That’s what is. Your resistance to what is upsets you. You don’t like the feelings the upset generates and you want your ex-wife to share the responsibility. Isn’t that about it?” “You certainly have a way of twisting everything around.” “Yeah. Logic is a bitch.” * * * * "Dick Sutphen's Metaphysical World" radio show airs on www.contacttalkradio.com 11 AM -- 12 Noon (Pacific Time) every Wednesday. (This is the most popular show on the CTR network). Listen live on the web or download an archive show. We're also live on an FM station in Seattle and we're on satellite. In addition to our regular listeners, thousands have subscribed to have iTunes download the show into their iPods. Of the 58 shows on the network, Dick's is #1. To visit his page: http://www.contacttalkradio.com/hosts/dicksutphen.htm / iPod owners who would like to have the show downloaded: http://www.contacttalkradio.com/podcasts/Dick_Sutphen's_Meta physical_World.xml ************************************************** 2010 SUTPHEN SEMINARS: To learn more about Sutphen sponsored events, go to: www.dicksutphen.com and click “Seminars.” The events are all personally conducted by Dick Sutphen. ************************************************** To Be Announced in December. * * * * * ON-LINE ORDERING of all Dick & Tara Sutphen books, tapes & CDs is now available at: www.prohypnosis2.com / www.mp3prohypnosis.com Or TOLL-FREE PHONE: 1-800-421-6603 / Or send a fax and credit card info to: 1-818-706-3606. Astrology charts, geographic location charts and special computerized charts and reports to help you create your own reality are available by clicking here. 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