“Isn’t life interesting? All about choices and then what we learn from having made them,” my wife Roberta and I were discussing over breakfast.
Cause and effect. Karma ... simply stated.
Roberta and I talk a lot about love and destiny and free will. We either HAVE free will to make key choices in life ... or we HAD free will in spirit and before birth we decided how life was going to unfold. Roberta’s reference to “choices and what we learn from having made them” related to our many shared past-lifetimes and what has brought us back together again at this place and time in life.
Look back on your own life. Some of your simplest decisions led to a meeting, incident, accident, or opportunity ... and your life changed forever. The decision probably didn’t seem all that important at the time. Yet if you could pinpoint the moment it was made, and investigate it astrologically, you might find the puzzle pieces fit together perfectly.
Prior to meeting your mate or lover, you made decisions leading up to the fated encounter. You probably thought the decisions were yours alone.
In the book, “Everything Happens For A Reason,” author Suzane Northrop claims “vibratory synchronicity” is responsible for bringing people together when the time is right. “Souls with like energy find each other,” she says. And she goes on to substantiate her claim with thought-provoking examples and case histories.
What if we were to look ahead, see the outcome, and change directions to avoid the lesson? Would this be wisdom erasing karma? Or would it postpone a lesson our soul set out to learn through experience? If we could easily see the future, wouldn’t it take all the fun out of day-to-day discovery?
“I made a soul agreement to have six children in this life,” said Marian, a woman in her late thirties or early forties. She had just experienced the Pre-birth Planning session in one of my workshops.
She seemed troubled. I asked, “Is that a problem?”
“Yes,” she said. She looked like she was going to cry. “I have five children, ages three to seventeen. I really, really do not need anymore.” She looked down at the floor, up at the ceiling. “Do you think what I just experienced in that session is reality?”
“I don’t know,” I said. There was no way I could know for sure. But based upon my own experiences and those of hundreds of seminar and workshop participants, I would guess that Marian will have another child.
“Well, I thought we were smarter on the other side, in spirit,” Marian said. “Why would I make such a dumb decision?” She started to cry. Other participants tried to comfort her.
Consciously Marian does not want any more children, but on a soul level she is driven by the past. In a private session the following day, I had her explore a Back-to-the-Cause regression. She saw herself as a mother in war-torn China. The Japanese had killed her children before killing her. She died vowing to bring her six children back to her.
The year I worked with Marian, I had conducted workshops in several New Age expos and professional hypnosis conferences. Following a talk, I induced an altered-state of consciousness and directed a group regression back to a time in spirit when the group participants were planning their current incarnations.
I ask the hypnotized participants to explore intimate details about their plans for the life to come—questions about relationships, parents, children, career, health and spirituality. I also gave them time to ask their own questions of their Spirit Guides. Not everyone was happy with what they discovered.
Although the way participants perceive this experience varies to some degree, the following dialogue was typical. I was conducting a private regression many years that I wrote about, with a man named Matthew who came to me in an attempt to find out why his marriage was deteriorating. I directed him back to time in spirit when he was planning his life.
“Be receptive to all you perceive,” I said. “On the count of three you’ll be there. One, two, three. (pause) Can you speak up and tell me what you see and what you’re doing?”
“I’m sitting in a room with several other people.”
“Tell me about the room and how you’re dressed,” I said.
“The room is open ... arches ... outdoors and indoors meld together. The walls are a soft pink. There’s a warm breeze. And we’re dressed in robes. I’m sitting across a table from a mature woman. Two males are standing over there and another is sitting beside me.”
“What is being communicated?”
“I’ve plotted out my next incarnation, and now the elders are going over my plans,” Matthew said.
“Can you tell me how you worked out something so complicated on your own?”
“Everyone does it on their own. It is complicated, but you have all the time you need to do a proper job. You’d better do a proper job because you’re the one who has to live it.”
“Are you planning to get together again with the soul you currently know as Susan?”
“Yes. Yes, of course. We help each other grow,” he said.
After bringing Matthew back to the present time, but while he remained deep in the altered state, I said, “You and Susan are using your relationship to master a larger soul lesson. Each incarnation you’re attracted all over again, drawn together by unconscious forces to pick up where you left off. You don’t consciously remember your past lives, but intuitively you’re ready to take on the unlearned lessons. Until you’ve learned from your past, you’re destined to repeat your mistakes. Learning is a process of remembering the past.”
Although destined to be together in this life, Matthew and Susan divorced a few months later. They did take karma into consideration in parting, resolving their ties amicably. They had both accomplished all they could this time around. But I believe they will come back together in a future life. Each shared incarnation results in more evolution and deeper love. Love is the most powerful force in the Universe and whatever fear shuts out, love will eventually let in.
In Spirit we rest, work and prepare to reincarnate. Master teachers—highly evolved souls—will gather with an entity to plot needed lessons for their next incarnations. This includes the entity’s involvement with hundreds of other souls who will incarnate within the same time frame, and all the karmic interactions to generate learning opportunities. Astrology—the exact moment and place of birth—sets the soul on a path that will serve as a blueprint for the earth life.
This Pre-Birth Planning Session is part of the cycle of rebirth for most individuals. The Master teachers will not tell you what you are to encounter in the new life. They suggest, but you always have the free will to override the suggestions. And based upon 40 years of research, it seems to me that most people tend to be very brave in spirit. They believe that they’ve learned their lessons from the mistakes of prior lifetimes and are anxious to take on the mantle of a human body to balance their karma and test themselves once again.
Today most of my research is done through private practice, not seminars and workshops. My wife Roberta, who is an exceptional Medium, often joins me. We are currently working on a book that will share many new ideas we’ve discovered together these past seven years, which I hope to have published before the end of this year (2017).
Peace and Light,
In 1946, Glenn Clark wrote a book about author/sculptor Walter Russell, titled, “The Man Who Tapped the Secrets of the Universe.” It’s a small 60-page book, but it’s always been a favorite. Here is an inspiring excerpt in which Clark is interviewing Russell:
“Can you give me the secret of your life?” I asked.
He hesitated, then replied. “Yes. I believe sincerely that every man has consummate genius within him. Some appear to have it more than others only because they are aware of it more than others are, and the awareness or unawareness of it is what makes each one of them into masters or holds them down to mediocrity. I believe that mediocrity is self-inflicted and that genius is self bestowed. Every successful man I ever have known, and I have known a great many, carries with him the key which unlocks that awareness and lets in the universal power that has made him into a master.”
“What is that key?” I asked.
“That key is desire when it is released into the great eternal Energy of the universe.”
“Can you explain more fully what you mean by that?”
“I have found out that the real essentials of greatness in men are not written in books, nor can they be found in the schools. They are written into the inner consciousness of everyone who intensely searches for perfection in creative achievement and are understandable to such men only.
“Successful men of all the ages have learned to multiply themselves by gathering thought energy into a high potential and using it in the direction of the purpose intended. Every successful man or great genius has three particular qualities in common. The most conspicuous of these is that they all produce a prodigious amount of work. The second is that they never know fatigue, and the third is that their minds grow more brilliant as they grow older, instead of less brilliant. Great men’s lives begin at forty, where the mediocre man’s life ends. The genius remains an ever-flowing fountain of creative achievement until the very last breath he draws. The geniuses have learned how to gather thought energy together to use for transforming their conceptions into material forms. The thinking of creative and successful men is never exerted in any direction other than that intended. That is why great men produce a prodigious amount of work, seemingly without effort and without fatigue. The amount of work such men leave to posterity is amazing. When one considers such men of our times as Edison, Henry Ford or Theodore Roosevelt, one will find the three characteristics I have mentioned common to every one of them.”
Just about everyone I know is metaphysically-oriented, so I regularly hear a lot of powerful ideas. As a result, I’m always making mental and written notes.
A professional hypnotist coming out of a painful divorce recently said to me, “WHERE THERE IS NO FORGIVENESS, THERE IS A KARMIC TIE.” She continued to elaborate, saying, “I certainly don’t want to have to reincarnate and go through this again, so forgiveness is at the top of my priority list. If I can truly let him go with forgiveness, the next time around he’ll have to find someone else with a karmic configuration matching his own need of learning.” I agreed.
My questions to you: Is there anyone in your life you have not forgiven? Do you accept that if you do not forgive, you will come back together to work it out in a future life?
While recently enjoying a Sunday afternoon talking with several friends, one woman expressed how angry she was at someone we all knew. Another friend said, “Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis once said to a friend, ‘ONLY AMATEURS STAY MAD.’” That statement got the attention of everyone within listening distance and generated an enjoyable discussion.
My question to you: Who are you mad at?
A friend of ours told us about creating a line of products, which cost him his life savings. He was elated when a big company offered to buy his products but was depressed when their offer came in at $4000. “At least he got a lot of experience,” Roberta said.
I felt deserved more and said, “EXPERIENCE IS WHAT YOU GET WHEN YOU DON’T GET WHAT YOU WANT.” I wish I could remember who said that so I could credit them properly. But all too often I’ve rationalized similar situations with that kind of line.
My question to you: Is there an area of your life where you’re not being compensated appropriately? If so, what can you do to get what you want?
“WE MOVE TOWARD PLEASURE AND AWAY FROM PAIN, THAT’S JUST WHAT IS,” said a therapist friend in a recent e-mail. We were exchanging ideas about handling an unpleasant situation.
My questions to you: Is there anything in your life you’re pulling away from? What are you moving towards? Is that where you really want to go?
“YOUR SOUL IS ALWAYS NUDGING YOU TOWARD GROWTH CHOICES,” said a friend over lunch. I laughed in response and agreed. The words “growth choice” or “growth opportunity” are New Age buzz words for coming face to face with a situation that will be challenging, which means you’re going to be tested. Your decision generates an opportunity and the outcome provides the lessons.
My question to you: Is your soul calling you to make any growth choices at this time?
I’ll leave you with this thought: GROWTH RESULTS FROM RISK, WHICH IS A MATTER OF COMMITTING TO ACTIONS YOU CAN’T CONTROL.
YOU ARE ALWAYS FREE TO START OVER. No matter what your problem, when something is not working, you can decide to stop playing. If you are experiencing friction or feeling resentment, your soul may be calling for you to end this ... so you can start that.
This does not mean that you cannot succeed, but your soul may be telling you that the direction you are going is not taking you where you want to be. And by admitting that an aspect of your life is not working, you are freed to begin moving in a new direction that will work.
Before deciding to start over, you may want to explore any personal fears that are motivating the need to begin again. Resentment if a fear-based emotion obviously based upon you wanting someone else to be the way you want them to be. Is that justified? And know that if you are holding on to a past hurt, the other person is keeping you a prisoner in the here and now.
Assuming you can release any fear-based emotions (especially blame) relating to your wanting to start over, the best place to begin self-processing is to explore what is true for you. Being true to yourself is more important than your fear of consequences? When you are not true to yourself you are living in fear.
You also do not want to live in fear of what others might think about you starting over.
Once you have decided to start over, it will be time to stop explaining yourself to other people. It is your right to offer no excuses or justifications for your decisions or behavior. You may want to explain why you have acted in a particular way to those with whom you share a close relationship, but you do not owe anyone an explanation. Excuses and explanations weaken your position.
We all find ourselves in positions in which others imply that we owe them an explanation. Most of us are so well trained that we react automatically and comply with their wishes without thinking. All too often we explain ourselves even when no one has asked “why.”
It is often hardest not to offer an explanation to a good friend, but why should a friend force you to explain your actions? If your friend is incapable of accepting your rights then maybe she is incapable of relating to you on any basis but manipulation.
To start over also means leaving behind your old ideas about yourself.
The Universal Law of Resistance says that which you resist you draw to you, and you will perpetuate it’s influence upon your life. You’ve already heard that many times.
Resistance is fear, so it is something you need to karmically resolve. The Law of Resistance assures that you overcome your fears by repeatedly confronting them until you learn detachment.
Another aspect of the Law of Resistance says, that which you resist out of fear, you become. It not in this lifetime, in a future incarnation.
“The Game of Life and how to play it” by Florence Schvel Shinn was published in 1925, and is the first book I am aware of that teaches the power of affirmations and The Law of Attraction. Here is an excerpt demonstrating what Shinn called The Law of Nonresistance.
“I have a friend who said nothing could induce her to walk under a ladder. I said, ‘If you are afraid, you are giving in to a belief in two powers, Good and Evil, instead of one. As God is absolute, there can be no opposing power, unless man makes the false of evil for himself. To show you believe in only One Power, God, and that there is no power of reality in evil, walk under the next ladder you see.’
“Soon after, she went to her bank. She wished to open her box in the safe-deposit vault, and there stood a ladder on her pathway. It was impossible to reach the box without passing under the ladder. She quailed with fear and turned back. She could not face the lion on her pathway. However, when she reached the street, my words rang in her ears, and she decided to return and walk under it. It was a big moment in her life, for ladders had held her in bondage for years. She retraced her steps to the vault, and the ladder was no longer there! This so often happens! If one is willing to do a thing he is afraid to do, he does not have to,
“It is the law of nonresistance, which is so little understood.
“Someone has said that courage contains genius and magic. Face a situation fearlessly, and there is no situation to face; it falls away of its own weight.
“The explanation is, that fear attracted the ladder on the woman’s pathway, and fearlessness removed it.
“Thus the invisible forces are ever working for man who is always ‘pulling the strings’ himself, through he does not know it. Owing to the vibratory power of words, whatever man voices, he begins to attract. People who continually speak of disease, invariably attract it.”
We cannot be too careful with our words.
All change and growth involves three steps: 1. DISSATISFACTION: Because of outer events or inner feelings, you decide your current situation no longer works for you. 2. CONFUSION: Normally, a period of confusion follows in which you challenge your old beliefs. You begin to fantasize how things could be different. This transitional period could last a day, a month, or a year, or more ... until something happens. 3. ACTION: Someone helps you to make a decision, or an opportunity presents itself, or you manage to attain clarity. Once this happens, you take action and, ideally, manifest a more satisfying life.
But oh how we resist change. Out of fear, we cling to what is and do everything within our power to keep people and things in their familiar static positions. If you’re in a good relationship, you certainly don’t want your union to spin off in some unexpected direction that will cause you anxiety. You want things to remain just as they are, solid and predictable. But soon suffering arises, because life is constantly changing.
“It is your resistance to what is that causes your suffering,” said Buddha. Life is change. Change is what is. If not today, tomorrow, or next month, or next year. Everything in your life will eventually change.
Trouble starts with our desire for permanency. Desire is a matter of living in the future--of sacrificing the present for the future. And desires always disappoint. If you don’t get what you desire you become frustrated. If you do get what you desire you’ll still be frustrated, because what you desired will never live up to your expectations. Sooner or later you’ll find you were chasing illusions.
And permanency is a great big faulty assumption, because it simply does not exist.
But what if you could lock up life so that permanency were possible? Nothing would ever change. Tomorrow would be a repetition of today. Next year, everything the same. Five years down the road, exactly the same. BORING! STATIC! DEPRESSING! It is the not knowing that makes life exciting and generates ALIVENESS.
So the idea is to be courageous enough to embrace change, knowing that your soul is in search of new experiences to provide GROWTH. Growth is why you incarnated upon the earth. But you can’t experience growth living a static life. A static (stagnant) life may protect you from some problems, but at what cost and for how long? Stagnation is a process of drying up--allowing your life to become dull, colorless, lifeless. No aliveness. No joy. Watch some TV, go to work, come home, watch some TV go to work, come home. Treadmill.
Even if your actions in a quest for growth cause you pain, at least when you’re hurting you know you’re alive. And the pain will generate more action, which will lead to more aliveness. Soon you’ll find yourself back among the living.
If your life has become lifeless, what can you possibly fear from change? Explore your DISSATISFACTION, allow time for CONFUSION, and then make up your mind and ACT to manifest a more satisfying life.
Peace & Light for the New Year--Dick Sutphen
Within the last 24 hours, two of my friends have written me about needing to find more balance in their lives. Both are in their forties and are highly motivated and successful women. That kind of synchronicity always gets my attention. A little voice in my head said, “Write about it.”
BALANCE. What images does the word “balance” invoke for you? For me, it’s the yin/yang symbol, followed by the image of a tightrope walker, carrying a pole.
The Universe functions as a yin/yang balance, resulting in a tension between opposites (yin is negative and yang positive). We all contain the energy of these dual aspects: love/hate, harmony/chaos, good/evil. Tension is necessary for structure to exist. Human beings are energy structures, and without tension we don’t exist. As a result, there is always yin balance in our lives. Typical examples would be, self-denial, over-committing to the point of feeling frazzled, excess hard work, gambling, dwelling upon negativity, dangerous activities, sexual affairs, arguing, fighting, drugs, drinking, and illness.
In my seminars I talk about replacing yin energy expressions with positive challenges. But for this column, I want to stick with the general perception of balance.
As for the tightrope walker, he’s never in perfect balance. He continually moves the pole up and down and shifts weight from the right to the left. A little too much movement in one direction is quickly balanced by shifting weight in the other direction. The walker is never really in perfect balance for more than a moment. If he were, he would fall.
Life is a tightrope and like the tightrope walker you’ll never be in balance for long. If you were to strive to avoid all extremes you’d limit your life and would certainly generate anxiety. Don’t use this thinking as an excuse to be overindulgent, but if that’s what you need to do, you’ll soon generate an opposite pull of the forces.
One of the friends I mentioned has been working seven days a week in a hostile environment--pushing himself to the point of being unable to sleep. And guess who just ended up sick in bed for several days?
If you know you’re badly out of balance, take action before your bodymind finds a way of doing it for you. But stop worrying about finding perfect balance. If you can replace yin behavior with positive challenge, do it. Instead of endangering your mental or physical health, find a way to generate the needed experience, but in a way that can serve you.
From the perspective of reincarnation, we swing back and forth through our lifetimes in an ongoing quest to attain balance. And from this overview, good really isn’t good and bad isn’t bad. They’re not opposites in conflict, but two harmonious aspects of the same thing. An automobile battery offers a good analogy. Within the battery are charged metal plates. One is charged positive, the next negative, the next positive, and so on. The positive plate is not “good” anymore than the negative plate is “bad.” The interaction resulting from this alternating charge is what creates the energy you experience when you twist the key in your car’s ignition.
In the book, “The Tao of Love” by Ivan Hoffman (Prima Publishing), the author discusses balance: “Everything in the world is in a state of balance with everything else. Such is the nature of the yin and yang, of the Tao itself. There cannot be winter without spring; there cannot be life without death, there cannot be happiness without sadness.
“Whenever one component of that relationship changes, by definition the other component or components must also change to maintain the equilibrium. There can never be a state of disequilibrium in the natural scheme of things, for out-of-balance situations, both in nature and in the lives of human beings, will always attempt to right themselves, much like water seeking to find its own level once the pressures are turned off.”
Years ago I taught a two-day course for the National Guild of Hypnotists Conference entitled, “Human Potential Trainer Techniques.” The last gathering was attended by 1500 hypnotherapists who learned how to set up a process with a short talk, run a process and follow up with dialogues or fast individual back-to-the-cause regressions.
One of the altered-state processes was on the subject of “buttons.” When the participants were deep in trance, I said, “And it’s time to explore some of your past programming. We all have buttons connected to our computer-like subconscious mind. When these buttons are pushed, we demonstrate our machine-ness by reacting with emotion—often anger, repression or fear.
“So in this process we’re going to explore what pushes your reaction buttons. What causes you to react? The idea is to be straight with yourself and to trust the very first thoughts that come into your mind … Okay ... here’s the first question: In your personal life, what pushes your buttons causing you to quickly become angry, or fearful, or to repress?”
The process continues to include an exploration of occupational buttons, sexual buttons, embarrassment buttons, and public, national or international situations that generate reactions. They’re asked what the person closest to them does to push their buttons. The final question is, “How does what other people think push your buttons?”
“All right, meditate upon how what other people think about you is manipulating you. What your mate or lover thinks ... your friends, your co-workers, your children, and your parents. Are they pushing your buttons causing you to be the way they want you to be? Meditate upon this.”
A few minutes later, I say, “Can you get that you’ve been programmed—brainwashed from birth to worry about what other people think? You grew up worrying about what others thought. But worrying about others think may not be in your best interest. Maybe what you think is what’s most important.
“In most life areas there is no such thing as moral and immoral, right and wrong, ethical and unethical. A group of people agree upon terminology, and maybe they agree to call a particular action or practice wrong. But that does not make it wrong. That doesn’t change what it actually is. Right, wrong, moral, immoral, ethical, and unethical are all concepts, which in fact exist only by agreement of a group of people. That does not make it right or wrong ... only what they call right or wrong. It does not change what it actually is.
“In living in a society we must be willing to accept the consequences of our actions in regard to the laws of society. Yet most of the conflicts with the opinions of other people are not legal issues. It may be ill advised for you to allow what other people think to push your reaction buttons and repress who you really are.
“And be aware that the people in your life quickly learn about your buttons and they use them to manipulate you. And that reduces your personal power. Meditate upon these ideas and consider any life changes you want to make.”
After a few minutes of silence, I say, “You no longer have to be a robot that reacts to past programming that does not serve you. You have the power and ability to create your own reality ... to change what isn’t working and to manifest what you desire …. And in just a moment I am going to wake you up, remembering everything you just experienced.”
Peace and light, Dick Sutphen
While recently talking with a friend, he said, “Life is never easy.”
“Did you hear what you just said?” I asked.
“Oh, I did, didn’t I?” he said. “Thank you for catching me.”
In my Bushido Training, I usually process participants on their “soap operas.” These are the stories, bitches, moans and groans that we verbalize without thinking. Here are a few examples: “All the men I meet are jerks.” “I never have enough time.” “I have messed up astrology, because my Aries doesn’t line up with my lover’s Capricorn.” “My wife doesn’t give me enough sex.” “Money is always a problem.” “Greedy corporations have screwed up the economy.” “I have a procrastination problem.” “My hemorrhoids are acting up again.”
Those close to you know your soap operas. They’ve heard them so often they could repeat them word for word. And you could repeat theirs.
Today, you can even whine on a vanity license plate. Recently I saw a plate that said, “LOSER.” When I told that story at a recent Florida training, hypnotist Dan Cleary told me of a man with a tattoo on his arm reading, “Born to Loose.” He meant to say Lose, but he was such a loser, he misspelled it.
Every time you climb into your car, “Loser.” Every time you look in the mirror, “Born to Loose.” How could you be anything but a looser?
Here’s a short process from the seminar. I have the participants close their eyes, lightly alter consciousness, and then I ask, “What is your primary soap opera--your number one gripe or complaint? When does it get aired? Who is your primary audience? Your mate, your friends, co-workers, relatives, strangers? ……. Now summarize it in one sentence, ‘My primary soap opera is .....’”
If you were in a seminar, I might have you express your gripe out loud over the sound system to the rest of the participants. Or I sometimes direct a group mill, which is a matter of having everyone walk around, and when face to face with another person, say, “My soap opera is .....” Pretty soon they’ve told everyone else in the room their soap opera and no one can deny that they sound like a stuck CD.
After a few minutes of group milling, I like to play the old Linda Ronstadt rock song, “Poor, Poor Pitiful Me,” at very loud volume. When it’s over, I ask the participants to close their eyes and listen closely to my words: “It’s time to realize that every time you repeat your soap opera to others, you program your subconscious mind with more negativity. Every negative thought generates a cause-and-effect reaction, assuring that you will continue to experience this negativity in the future. How about deciding to end your soap opera here and now?”