Do you know someone who thinks they’re always right? No matter the situation, they are the final word? It will help you to understand they were programmed to be exactly the way they are. And you can use the knowledge to your advantage.
Your subconscious mind is a memory bank and operates very much like a computer. It’s programmed for survival and for you to be “right.” Everything you consider saying or doing is quickly run through your data banks, comparing the present to related past experiences. Your computer then approves your actions as compared to the past, for in the past you “survived.”
Computers are logically programmed machines and cannot be wrong. To be wrong is a malfunction. If your subconscious computer allowed you to be wrong, its survival is threatened. So, the only way it can work is to make you feel correct. It does not reason and it does not care if you get what you want out of life. It just needs to be right to protect itself, even if you lose the game.
To rise above this programming, learn to be aware of your programming so you can detach from the buttons that cause you to act like a robot. A robot has no choice in the way it acts. It has wiring and circuits that are set so when a button is pushed, it reacts according to programming. In many areas of your life you’re programmed the same way. When your button is pushed you need to be right. Even if you’re not right, you’ll find some way to justify yourself. Only those with enlightened awareness of how human beings work understand this. Winning the game is far more satisfying than getting to be right.
Years ago I had the following discussion in one of my seminars:
“Can the need to be right come from past-life programming?” asked Anita, a pretty woman in her mid-twenties.
“We are all programmed to need to be right, just as we’re programmed to stand and walk on our feet,” I replied. “But an excessive need to be right might go back to a past-life cause.”
“But what do you do? My fiancé has to be right about everything, all the time. No one else is ever right. It’s enough to drive you nuts.” She rolled her eyes at the ceiling.
“Do you want to remain with him?”
“Of course, I love him.”
“Then you’d better develop an enlightened attitude allowing him to be right while you win the game. You have to learn to override your own ‘rightness’ button. Knowing how he is programmed to function, you can let him be right. Remember, unless you allow him to be right, his survival is threatened and there is going to be trouble. So you can quickly allow him to be right with a phrase such as, ‘I understand how you feel.’ In so doing, you learn to override your own ‘rightness’ button. Knowing how he is programmed to function, you can let him be right. You’re not admitting he is right, you’re just taking him off ‘tilt.’ His survival will no longer be threatened and he can concentrate upon the problem.”
Winning the game is far more satisfying than getting to be right.