“I made a soul agreement to have six children in this life,” said Marian, a woman in her late thirties or early forties. She had just experienced the Pre-birth Planning session in one of my workshops.
She seemed troubled. I asked, “Is that a problem?”
“Yes,” she said. She looked like she was going to cry. “I have five children, ages three to seventeen. I really, really do not need anymore.” She looked down at the floor, up at the ceiling. “Do you think what I just experienced in that session is reality?”
“I don’t know,” I said. There was no way I could know for sure. But based upon my own experiences and those of hundreds of seminar and workshop participants, I would guess that Marian will have another child.
“Well, I thought we were smarter on the other side, in spirit,” Marian said. “Why would I make such a dumb decision?” She started to cry. Other participants tried to comfort her.
Consciously Marian does not want any more children, but on a soul level she is driven by the past. In a private session the following day, I had her explore a Back-to-the-Cause regression. She saw herself as a mother in war-torn China. The Japanese had killed her children before killing her. She died vowing to bring her six children back to her.
The year I worked with Marian, I had conducted workshops in several New Age expos and professional hypnosis conferences. Following a talk, I induced an altered-state of consciousness and directed a group regression back to a time in spirit when the group participants were planning their current incarnations.
I ask the hypnotized participants to explore intimate details about their plans for the life to come—questions about relationships, parents, children, career, health and spirituality. I also gave them time to ask their own questions of their Spirit Guides. Not everyone was happy with what they discovered.
Although the way participants perceive this experience varies to some degree, the following dialogue was typical. I was conducting a private regression many years that I wrote about, with a man named Matthew who came to me in an attempt to find out why his marriage was deteriorating. I directed him back to time in spirit when he was planning his life.
“Be receptive to all you perceive,” I said. “On the count of three you’ll be there. One, two, three. (pause) Can you speak up and tell me what you see and what you’re doing?”
“I’m sitting in a room with several other people.”
“Tell me about the room and how you’re dressed,” I said.
“The room is open ... arches ... outdoors and indoors meld together. The walls are a soft pink. There’s a warm breeze. And we’re dressed in robes. I’m sitting across a table from a mature woman. Two males are standing over there and another is sitting beside me.”
“What is being communicated?”
“I’ve plotted out my next incarnation, and now the elders are going over my plans,” Matthew said.
“Can you tell me how you worked out something so complicated on your own?”
“Everyone does it on their own. It is complicated, but you have all the time you need to do a proper job. You’d better do a proper job because you’re the one who has to live it.”
“Are you planning to get together again with the soul you currently know as Susan?”
“Yes. Yes, of course. We help each other grow,” he said.
After bringing Matthew back to the present time, but while he remained deep in the altered state, I said, “You and Susan are using your relationship to master a larger soul lesson. Each incarnation you’re attracted all over again, drawn together by unconscious forces to pick up where you left off. You don’t consciously remember your past lives, but intuitively you’re ready to take on the unlearned lessons. Until you’ve learned from your past, you’re destined to repeat your mistakes. Learning is a process of remembering the past.”
Although destined to be together in this life, Matthew and Susan divorced a few months later. They did take karma into consideration in parting, resolving their ties amicably. They had both accomplished all they could this time around. But I believe they will come back together in a future life. Each shared incarnation results in more evolution and deeper love. Love is the most powerful force in the Universe and whatever fear shuts out, love will eventually let in.
In Spirit we rest, work and prepare to reincarnate. Master teachers—highly evolved souls—will gather with an entity to plot needed lessons for their next incarnations. This includes the entity’s involvement with hundreds of other souls who will incarnate within the same time frame, and all the karmic interactions to generate learning opportunities. Astrology—the exact moment and place of birth—sets the soul on a path that will serve as a blueprint for the earth life.
This Pre-Birth Planning Session is part of the cycle of rebirth for most individuals. The Master teachers will not tell you what you are to encounter in the new life. They suggest, but you always have the free will to override the suggestions. And based upon 40 years of research, it seems to me that most people tend to be very brave in spirit. They believe that they’ve learned their lessons from the mistakes of prior lifetimes and are anxious to take on the mantle of a human body to balance their karma and test themselves once again.