THE STRONG ARE PATIENT
Patience means to hold back in your inclination to respond to the extreme emotions of:
Do not stuff your real feelings; instead, simply give yourself the opportunity to get past your automatic response so you can determine what your real feelings are. Give yourself time to be perspective about the repercussions and to weigh your response against your values. In so doing you achieve understanding that leads to inner harmony. Use your index finger and thumb “mudra” conditioning to support your patient response.
It is time to stop judging and manipulating others. Could you say the following to those close to you?
“You are perfect the way you are. Is it working for you?”
What someone else says to you does not affect you. only what you think about what they say affects you. All the rest is what you add to it. Instead, most of us take it personally. This is always ill-advised, because their reactions, good or bad, come out of their conditioning, from the memory banks of their computer. It is their viewpoint and it has nothing to do with you. The way they relate to you they would relate to anyone who represented to them what you represent.
Others reactions to you are nothing but statements of their viewpoint. It has nothing to do with the facts, or the way things actually are.
If your relationships are based on need, they are based on fear and your game is “how do I avoid losing?” You are resisting loss and thus you will draw it to you. Rise above this need by becoming more independent.
Past lives only amount to past classes in school. You learned or you didn’t. You programmed your computer for smooth functioning or you didn’t. Your present situation shows exactly how well you learned in the past. It is your own wisdom that will set you free in the present. Wisdom can be a matter of becoming aware of our own truths and choosing a self-responsible, non-manipulative viewpoint. Wisdom can also be clarity of intent and the self-discipline to be responsible to your goals and incorporate techniques to create your own reality.
Are you ready to fully commit to whatever you do? Are you ready to stop living your life with one foot in the safety zone and give it everything you have? When you give all you’ve got, you can receive all there is.
LOVING YOURSELF DISSOLVES EGO
The idea that it is necessary to suppress the ego to evolve spiritually has been accepted by many who seek wisdom. Yet to worry about your ego must be the ultimate ego trip. Get off it. Your ego is. to attempt to get rid of your ego is resistance and thus you’ll end up with more ego. Experience what you experience without repressing and be aware that the more you love yourself, the less you will need to express ego-centered feelings of superiority. So it appears that if you are concerned about ego it would be in your best interest to forget about suppressing and concentrate upon loving yourself.
Resistance is fear, which is negative programming. In addition, there is a universal law which states: "What you resist you draw to you." As long as you resist something, you are locked into it and you perpetuate its influence in your life.
Thus, it will make you life much simpler not to resist, "what is." Some things are facts. Income taxes exist ... that's what is. Gravity exists ... that's what is. Your mate is quiet and soft-spoken ... that's what is. You can spend your time attempting to change what is, but there isn't much you're going to do about it. Instead, concentrate your efforts upon that which you can change.
The positive or negative qualities you react to in others are a reflection of the same qualities within you. They are a mirror for you and if you are aware, you will learn from the mirror. How does this concept reflect in your current relationships?
STOP ASKING, "WHY DID YOU DO THAT?"
"Those who justify themselves do not convince." --Lao-Tzu
When you ask, "why did you do that?" you show a lack of awareness. You seek reasons and reasons rarely exist. People always act emotionally, doing what they want to do. They invent logical reasons to justify their actions to themselves and others, yet the reasons are just rationales and excuses and rarely have much to do with the facts. The reasons don't really matter and no one could possibly know what they are. They lie buried in your viewpoint, which is the result of the past programming of all your lifetimes.
The urge to prove oneself right jiggles the Zen sense of ludicrousness. The Master of Life appreciates the man who can get off it.
ATTACHED MIND: When your state of mind is always changing from positive to negative as outside conditions change.
EXAMPLES: 1. Your relationship is going well and you are very happy, yet when your mate says something to irritate you, your response is anger. 2. You get a new car and you are happy about it until someone runs into it; then you become depressed. 3. You give a talk and receive an enthusiastic response from the audience, which makes you feel good. Afterwards, through, someone whose opinion you respect critics your presentation and you feel bad.
DETACHED MIND: When your state of mind fluctuates only from positive to neutral as outside conditions change. You accept all the warmth and joy in life while detaching from the negativity by allowing to flow through you without affecting you.
EXAMPLES: 1. Your relationship is going well and you are very happy. When your mate says something to irritate you, your response is neutral. You realize that it isn't what someone says to you that affects you ... it is only what you think about what they say that affects you ... it is what you add to it. You are also aware that their response is only an expression of their past programming. The way they relate to you, they would relate to anyone who represented to them what you represent. 2. You get a new car and you're very happy about it. One day someone runs into it, causing you the inconvenience of arranging to resolve the problem. You certainly aren't happy about what happened to your car, yet you accept that's what is and all the resistance and depression in the world won't change what is ... so why bother? Why complicate or program your life negatively? You simply do what you have to do to resolve the situation with a minimum of inconvenience. 3. You give a talk and receive an enthusiastic response from the audience, which makes you feel good. Afterwards someone you respect criticizes your presentation and you respond, "Thank you for your opinion; that's what you got out of it." You are unaffected by the remark. You know your critic is speaking from his viewpoint, which has nothing to do with the facts. You know your talk was well received and you've detached form the need to be right.
To develop a detached mind means to detach only from the negativity in your life. It does not mean having no feelings or sensations such as hunger or pain. When you eliminate the negativity you leave more time and room for love and warm interaction. When you cease to be concerned about negativity you'll be more likely to enter into what you do with nothing held back, free to be entirely at one with any circumstances.
(somewhat appropriate for today’s issues!)
Masks are designed to keep out pain; thus they also keep out joy. Fear is the only reason to wear a mask, and fear is the only problem that exists between people.
Wearing masks takes a great deal of energy and causes you to “stuff” your real feelings. “Stuffing” is repression and it is impossible to repress forever. It will come out in undesirable ways, such as adverse health or negative behavior toward others. The price of wearing masks can be very heavy.
In contrast, when you are straight and direct in your communications with others there is no energy drain. Be assertive enough to grant others their human rights, while demanding them for yourself and you’ll rise above the need of masks.
In the early 1970s, my husband developed a course he called “Bushido.” He based it on “the way of the Samurai.” I will be sharing with you his teachings that are as relevant today as they were when he first brought them out. The next several blog posts will be from Dick Sutphen’s Bushido Master of Life Training. My husband is truly a Master of Life. (And by the way, he is fine - just confined to home and a little bored!)
Historically, Samurai were spiritual warriors: men and women known for their strength of character, tranquility and detachment. In their acceptance of reincarnation, they rose above the fear of death. Although the Samurai are gone, their spirit remains in the thinking of the concepts (Zen, Tao, Wu-Wei) that were the force behind their power.
Knowing others is wisdom, knowing yourself is Enlightenment.
There is a Zen koan which describes three men observing a flag fluttering in the breeze.
One man says, “The flag is moving.”
The second man says, “The wind is moving.”
The third man says, “You are both wrong; it is your mind that is moving.”
As you observe your life, it is your mind that is moving, creating the illusion that your world of reality exists as it does. Zen perceives all as a unity: life is a whole and you are simply a part of it. Dualities such as you and me, material world and spiritual world, right and wrong, success and failure, moral and immoral do not exist. In removing the dualities there is nothing to worry about, for all is perfect tranquility. However, to experience this, you must detach from your illusions about reality and recognize that it exists only as that which you experience. You can experience reality as a hostile separateness or a tranquil oneness. It is up to you.
It is this detachment that allowed the Samurai to rise above the effects of fear and also allows some people to be perfectly tranquil in the midst of noisy, crowded or chaotic environments. They go into themselves and are not touched.
NOTHING TO SEEK
There is nothing to seek and nothing to find. You are already enlightened, and all the words in the world will not give you what you already have. The wise seeker, therefore, is concerned with one thing only: to become aware of what he already is, of the True Self within.
Truth is not what we discover, but what we create.
Peace and Light,
With our country divided as it is, to end suffering and attain peace of mind is to accept that what is, is. As simple as this concept is, I’ve been studying it for years and I still continue to learn more about it. Life on earth includes suffering. That’s pretty obvious. Our political candidate does or does not get elected. We have relationship problems, we lose loved ones through separation or death, and we experience loneliness, sickness and accidents. We are haunted by guilt. We have monetary hardships, experience phobias and fears and have unfulfilled desires.
We experience this distress because we desire things to be different than they are. In short, it is resistance to what is that causes your suffering. And when I say suffering, I mean everything in your life that doesn’t work. Do you want to see an immediate, positive change in your life? Then stop resisting what is. Some things are facts. Income taxes exist . . . that’s what is. Gravity exists . . . that’s what is. Your mate is quiet and stubborn . . . that’s what is. You can spend your life attempting to change what is, but there isn’t much you’re going to do about it. Instead, concentrate your efforts upon that which you can change.
The Christian Serenity Prayer says the same thing: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.”
But you wouldn't believe the resistance to this concept that I received in seminars. People want things changed. In fact, they want everything they dislike changed, and initially, they think I am advocating passive acceptance of life as it is. This is not the case.
Maybe your state government has decided to build a maximum security prison a few blocks from your house. This is not necessarily what is. You have the power to gather your neighbors and petition the state to build it elsewhere. There are things you have the potential to change, so do everything you can to change them if it is important to you. But there are also things you cannot change and I advocate that you recognize these areas in your life and stop wasting your efforts attempting to change what cannot be changed.
When you begin to accept what is in your life, you simply accept facts, logic . . . unalterable realities. Actually, you have no choice in accepting what is. It is what is. But you certainly have a choice in how you respond to what is. You can handle it or make it worse by generating negative subconscious programming.
The wisdom of many of the old Zen Masters has been translated and is available to be studied today. My favorite Zen Master was Joshu, and Zen expressed through Joshu is radical, extreme and sometimes even brutal. He was born in China in A.D. 778 and is believed to have died A.D. 897 at the age of 120. My favorite Joshu story relates to his death His students gathered around their dying master, and one asked, “Oh, Master, don’t leave us without telling us the meaning of life.” In response to this request, Joshu said, “What’s hot is hot and what’s cold is cold!” And he died. It was his way of saying, what is, is.
Peace and Light, Dick Sutphen
Use your powers of perception to give yourself the advantage in any situations you find yourself in. As in the martial art of Aikido, consider yielding to others in order to receive their power and to learn their direction. Then you can direct a corresponding effort to use their power to your benefit.
To yield you must open, give up all judgment, and go beyond objectivity to become an observer. Use your perceptive abilities "to walk a mile in the other person's shoes." With this awareness you can act accordingly, keeping in mind that when you act with intent you incur karma.
This is an ideal time to establish a rapport with others. By maintaining a viewpoint of unconditional love your perceptions will remain clear and accurate. As a result you can use your awareness to attain peace, balance, harmony, and justice.
The more you use your perceptive abilities in positive ways the more you round out and refine your own character. This gives you the ability to influence and lead others with vision, or to live a rich life with little interference from others.
Peace and light, from Dick and Roberta
I am so pleased to announce our good fortune. We are eternally grateful for your beautiful comments, thoughts and especially your prayers. Two weeks ago Dick was having trouble using his left leg. Two days after I posted our last blog, Dick began walking again and is now able to use his left leg with the help of a cane and should be 100% after a few therapy sessions. It truly was a combination of your prayers and good wishes, his Spirit Guides and helpers, and my insistence he listen to at least one of his programs each day. I reminded him that he now had to take his own advice - and he readily did. He is very much aware of the power of hypnosis programming, positive visualization, and prayers that all help Spirit guide us to our good fortunes in life.
Thank you, everyone.
Peace, light and harmony,
Good Fortune by Dick Sutphen
The positive powers of the Universe will favor you as long as your wants do not conflict with someone else's desires. You must be very careful to keep your wants in harmony with the universe and to remain modest in your victories. If your ego gets out of balance, it will upset everything else and all gains will be lost. So now is the time to explore the motive and intent behind your desire.
We are blessed with unseen support to deal with our with worldly affairs. The same is true with social matters. You can easily move into new circles, but be careful of the company you keep. You are affected and influenced by everyone who comes into the space of your aura, so associate only with positive people who will inspire and motivate you. Your close personal relationships will greatly benefit from this time of good fortune. Your creative projects will also be favored.
You have great resources and your timing is ideal, so be responsible to this blessing and maintain balance and harmony in your life. Be appreciative and thank those on the other side who support your quest.
My wonderful husband had a min1-stroke right after Christmas. He’s on the mend, and although his left leg is not 100% functional, the doctors all say he will make a full recovery. You can be assured that he is using his programs! —Accelerated Healing Video Hypnosis; Heal Your Body with Your Spirit Guide’s Help, and Get Well Sleep Programming. I’ll keep you all posted. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. He is such a special man!
In an ideal primary relationship, both partners use their union to help each other become all they are capable of being:
1. LOVE: love each other as you would be loved.
2. ACCEPTANCE: Treasure each other's uniqueness without expectations of change.
3. COMMITMENT: Totally commit to the relationship, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially. Withholding reflects undermining doubts.
4. SUPPORT: Support each other in ways that increase self-esteem.
5. DETACHMENT: Let the little things go.
6. COMMUNICATION: Openly share yourself and discuss needs and compromise solutions.
7. LISTEN: Be willing to appreciate the other's position even when you don't agree.
8. COMFORT: Be friends as well as lovers and let your union be a refuge of balance and harmony.
9. TRANSCEND ANGER: The only reason for anger is the expectation of having things your way.
10. TIME: Shared activities are the building blocks of a good relationship.
11. TRANSCEND BLAME: Blame is an expression of self-pity and is incompatible with karma.
12. SPIRITUALITY: Encourage each other to evolve spiritually.
Meditate upon how these tenets apply to your question and how it would serve you to integrate them into your life.
Peace and light to you all ... Roberta
The new year offers opportunities to create wealth and success, lose weight, or reinvent yourself in any number of ways. My wife faithfully creates her list of desired resolutions every year and she tells me she has performed this ritual since being in her twenties. Roberta cheats a little by asking her guide to help her see future events in her third eye, then uses her imagination to feel as if they have already happened. She thanks God and Spirit, asking for a benevolent outcome, promising she will do her part if the Universe does theirs. I’ve taught these same steps over and over again in many seminars most of you are familiar with. Most of my programs are geared toward using your imagination to create your desires into reality.
Imagination is more powerful than willpower. As an example, lay a two-by-four board flat on the floor and walk along it. You will find it easy to do. You imagine you can do it and thus you are able to do it. Now consider how you might feel if the board were placed between two skyscrapers and you had to walk along it. You would probably be fearful and imagine falling, so you would probably fall, regardless of how much willpower you exerted. The board did not change at all; only your viewpoint of the board changed.
Change begins with imagination, and imagination is the most powerful reprogramming technique. While in meditation imagine your life as you desire it to be. Create vivid mental movies which are fantasies in which you feel and sense everything that is happening—your emotions and the reactions of others who are observing your victory or accomplishments. Fantasize your objective as an already accomplished fact. This way your subconscious fully comprehends the goal and can begin to manipulate circumstances that will eventually bring the goal into manifestation.
Roberta and I wish each of you a happy, prosperous, and healthy 2020.
Peace and Light, Dick Sutphen
Health and Healing
There are times in life when you must have enough faith to let go and stop attempting to manipulate circumstances. Don't push the river. Don't resist what is. Surrender. Have faith that there are reasons for what you are experiencing and they are beyond your understanding. Your destiny is not the only consideration. Others are involved and in time you will learn why things are happening as they are.
From a Higher-Self viewpoint, you are here on earth to learn to let go of fear and to express unconditional love. Have faith that your life is presenting you with opportunities for spiritual growth if you direct your emotions positively. If fear is the problem, love is the answer. Use your strength and willpower to express unconditional love, especially when you feel you’re being tested.
When you respond to your tests with love, positive thoughts or compassion you pass the tests and rise above your karma. If you respond with anger, blame or negativity you fail the tests and will have to be tested again at some time in the future.
Trust is part of faith. Trust yourself. Trust your Higher Self. Trust God, and trust that the outcome will be for the greater good.
I won't be posting again until after the holidays. Roberta and I wish everyone who reads this post a warm and happy holiday season. Have faith, trust yourself, and don’t forget to express unconditional love when you are spending the holidays with your family and loved-ones.
Peace and light,