New beginnings are always a step into the unknown. Your present environment may be one of chaos and total confusion, but it will evolve into a state of peace and growth. More than ever, this is a time to maintain your principles and draw upon your awareness of higher knowledge. Deal with your problems one at a time and act on the most important considerations first. There is no need to feel overpowered. You have the power and ability to resolve the disorder and establish a superior situation in the future.
New beginnings are an ideal time to move from an attached mind to a detached one. The vast majority of people on this planet live out their lives knowing only the attached mind, which fluctuates from positive to negative as outside conditions change—from happiness and joy down through neutrality, to the basement of emotions: depression, anger, hostility and fear.
A detached mind allows fluctuation only from positive to neutral as outside conditions change. You accept all the joy and happiness life has to offer, but your state of mind drops no further than neutral because you understand you can’t control others or manipulate unalterable realities.
May peace and light be with us all,
Any time you get upset with someone, it is a self-created karmic test to see how much you’ve learned and whether you’ll need to be tested in the future. Did you respond to the situation with compassion or neutrality? Did you respond with anger and negativity? Until you learn that negative, fear-based responses don’t work, similar future situations are assured.
My wife, Roberta, has a very wise Spirit Guide who said this to her one day: “It will bother you until it doesn’t.”
Be aware that you get upset because you had expectations of approval or control—of attaining the approval of others or controlling their actions or reactions. Simply stated, your expectations conflict with what is. It would be impossible for you to be upset about anything if your expectations were not in conflict with the current situation.
Ask yourself, “Where do I get the right to expect others to be the way I want them to be?” You don’t want them to expect you to live up to their expectations, do you? In the future, every time you start to get upset, remind yourself that “It will bother you until it doesn’t,” that your expectations are in conflict with what is.
Peace and Light,
The longer the advance time you can invest in your success, the greater the payoff will be. All the extra energy and effort will pay off down the line, if for no other reason than that there is much less competition.
Most people are oriented to an immediate payoff. They can’t financially afford to wait, or they aren’t emotionally capable of being patient. It’s estimated that only one person in ten will put effort into anything unless the payoff is within a year’s time. It follows, then, that only one of the ten is emotionally capable of investing time, energy, money, or sacrifice into something that won’t be profitable for five years of longer.
Meditate upon your willingness to invest the effort and energy for a future payoff. Consider writing this simple reminder and putting it in places where you’ll see it regularly: “I spend each moment doing the most productive thing I can.” Let this statement from you to yourself become your affirmation for success.
Peace and Light,
Although you probably don’t realize it, strong behavioral patters have been established in your past. A good place to begin exploration is in your primary relationship patterns that continue to emerge. For example, the moment your mate is critical of you, you close down and refuse to communicate. Or when you are finally assured of your mate’s love and dedication to the relationship, you become bored. there are common patterns of manipulation, including resistance, affairs, neglect and more.
An example of a career pattern is allowing only a limited level of success before doing something to cancel it out. Another is allowing frustrations to build up until a change is enacted.
If you discover strong life patterns that work against you, realize that they will continue to surface and rule your life until you make a conscious decision to change. To alter your patterns of behavior, you must break the fearful chains of illusion that keep you bound to undesirable past programming. It begins with awareness and a self-actualized viewpoint.
Change Your Life!
Peace and Light,
This year Roberta and I have teamed up with the Salvation Army to raise funds for their annual Red Kettle Drive.We are both passionate about giving to this worthy organization.
We are asking for your help to raise as many funds as possible by purchasing at least 1 MP3 download this month.
For the month of December we will donate
$1.00 for every MP3 download and
$2.00 for every CD or DVD.
Your gift to the Salvation Army is Tax Deductible.
You search hard for happiness, but how can you find it by searching for it? Happiness comes from within, the natural result of what you do in life. The more you spread joy to others, the more it will come back to you. If what you’ve been doing has not generated the joy and happiness you desire, it is time to change your approach. Stop searching. Stop desiring. Just give. Practice kindness. Share yourself. Give without expectations and it will be returned a hundred times over. Everything in life comes back to you.
Compassion is a feeling of deep sympathy or sorrow for another’s suffering, accompanied by a desire to alleviate the pain or remove its cause.
Ideally, when you experience compassion for another human being, you can help by creating conditions that will allow that person to alleviate his or her own pain.
The Salvation Army served 27,167,320 people last year. Roberta and I are asking that you help them reach those who are in need this holiday season.
Peace and Light,
Dick and Roberta Sutphen
When you are happy you are also more likely to be healthy—you have fewer physical ills, you age slower and live longer. If you stop to think about it, you’ll realize that just about every decision you make is based on what you think will bring you more happiness. This might best be defined as a state of well-being—one that is filled with positive feelings toward yourself and the world.
One the most important ingredients of a happy life is to love yourself. High self-esteem is the cornerstone of happiness and mental health and one of the best ways to increase your self-esteem is to value being more than belonging. This means that you value who you are and what is right and true for you more than you worry about being accepted by society and what other people think. This can earn you the label of a rebel and will often generate resistance from those whose self-esteem binds them to the dictates of society.
But don’t take their negative input personally. If you feel criticized, or someone says something negative to you, don’t take it as an attack on your self-worth. The idea is to begin transforming the way you experience your life. Realize that what someone else says or does, short of physical violence, does not affect you. Other people see you through their veil of old programming and you see them the same way. Neither side can be truly objective and accurately reflect the way things are.
Make it alright with yourself to let other people think they’re right and not care. For a person with truly high-self-esteem, being is more important than belonging.
A piece of advice that may apply for the upcoming family and friends gatherings at Thanksgiving. Peace and light from both Roberta and I.
When people hate, they always look for allies—the less justified the grievance, the more pressing the desire. The more that person wrongs someone they hate, the more fuel they add to their own hatred. This is how humans work. The one who hates has to silence his guilty conscious, and he does this by convincing himself and others that you really deserve punishment. He cannot feel indifference or pity for someone wronged; he must hate and persecute or leave the door open to self-contempt. Hatred can give meaning to an empty life. Therefore, understand that the one who hates is to be pitied.
You can’t change a hateful person, but you can change how you react. When you can let go of your expectations of approval or control, you begin to let go of YOUR anger, resentment and blame. The ideal self-actualized response is to allow the negativity to flow through you without affecting you.
Meditate upon how you can best rise above the situation through positive thinking and positive actions.
We send light and love to all those who were killed and/or terrorized in Las Vegas and New York City.
Peace and light, Dick Sutphen
The primary reason people are not as happy or fulfilled as they desire to be is that they do not know exactly what they want. Sometimes, even when they think they know what they want, they fool themselves because the object is desired for the wrong reasons. If this is “the first day of the rest of your life,” ask yourself exactly what you want to do with it. Your subconscious mind can then assist you in manifesting your desires.
Everyone wants happiness, but what that usually mean is that they want to end the unhappiness or conflict in their lives. That is certainly within their power, too, if they have clarity and are willing to act. But it’s not the same thing. True happiness is found internally, not externally. It is generated by a healthy attitude toward what happens in your life, by pursuing meaningful goals and by believing in yourself.
It is my belief that you must have goals or a strong general direction in order to take control of your life. When you don’t plan a life direction, you are making a choice, but inaction is no choice! Your subconscious mind generates the events in your life. If your thinking has been negative, you can be assured of moving toward potentially negative events. Thoughts are things—they create circumstances by programming your subconscious mind.
If you don’t have goals or lack clarity of intent, start exploring what you would really love to do—something so enjoyable that you’d be playing rather than working. Don’t even be logical in your search. When you become clear about what you want, everything will fall into place. Once you have pledged this direction, things begin to happen almost magically, as if you were a magnet drawing into your experience whatever is necessary for manifestation. The key to success is to have great emotional desire and no indecisiveness at all. The greater your emotional desire, the more energy you will generate to fulfill the goal.
You may want to meditate upon the clarity of your intent regarding your primary relationship, friends and family, career and level of success, spirituality, civic service, and any other area that is Important to you.
Peace and light,
"Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain, and most fools do." - Benjamin Franklin
My wife’s guide has said to her many times over the years, “Try never to let others change who you are.” Like many of us working to become self-actualized, Roberta does her best to be calm and not to over-react. We are living in some very polarized times and we are both working at not responding to what is happening on the political front. It’s difficult not to become upset, but just as Roberta’s guide points out, if you don’t believe you are an angry, hateful person, then don’t become one to defend your position. It’s not worth it. You don’t want to become what you revile.
Holding a copy of my book, “The Oracle Within,” Roberta reminded me of my own words regarding what she is experiencing.
The Oracle Within
THE LAW OF RESISTANCE
What you resist you draw to yourself. As long as you resist something, you are locked into combating it and merely perpetuate its influence in your life. Resistance is fear, something you need to karmically resolve. You must let go of the fear by encountering it until you learn to consciously detach from what you view to be negative.
You must learn to yield to an oncoming force in such a way as to render it harmless and, at the same time, change its direction by pushing it from behind instead of resisting it from the front. A Master of Life doesn’t oppose things, nor does he attempt to change circumstances by asserting himself against them. Instead, he goes with the flow, yielding to its full force and either pushing it slightly out of direct line or moving it around in the opposite direction without ever encountering its direct opposition. This is the principle of controlling life by going along with it.
You need to understand that what you deny to others will be denied to you. What you deeply believe defines your experience. What you feel strongly about and what you say creates your reality. For example, if you resent wealthy people, you’ll never be wealthy. If you are irritated by other people’s success, you will be denied success. If you’re jealous of someone else’s loving relationship, you will be denied an ideal relationship.
Negative emotions work against you because you can’t attain that which you resent. Your negative attitudes program a cause and effect response in your subconscious mind—karma. The purpose of karma is to teach and in this case, to instruct you by denying you what you would deny others. Karma is trying to show you your attitudes are based upon emotions you need to transcend.
"Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values." - Dali Lama
You live in a world of your own creation.
Your life continues as it has been, not because that’s the way your life is meant to be, but because you continue to make the SAME CHOICES.
Insanity has been defined as doing the same thing over and over the same way, but expecting a different result.
Choose to do things differently. Choose to change.
For starters, what about beginning to get out of old ruts by changing some of your routines? Little routines, big routines -- find new ways to do things. Scheduling routines, driving routines, dressing routines, sexual routines. ROUTINES ARE ANTI-LIFE!
Little changes in routine can lead to larger changes in relationships, lifestyle, career and the way you do business. We fear change because we cannot know how it will influence the future. It’s safer to maintain the status quo. But is it?
There are times when real change is necessary, IF YOU WANT TO AVOID STAGNATION AND DEGENERATION. When faced with such a time, The “I Ching” advises you approach change gradually, improving the situation a little at time so you can judge the results as you proceed. It warns of being hasty and behaving excessively, thus assuring a “careful calculated transformation.”
In addition, the I-Ching advises that you establish clarity of intent, remove discordant elements as they appear, and throw out what is “outmoded or stifling.”
The I Ching is one of the oldest books on the planet. And although I regularly consult it for guidance, I don’t agree that all change should be gradual. Sometimes change is most effectively implemented with bold action. In any given situation there is always one move that will produce substantial results.
The other side of the coin: A more enlightened Zen view says, we can choose to be happy, whatever the circumstances in our life. By attaining “detached mind” we can rise above negativity or the need to make things different than they are. “Don’t waste your time trying to change anything,” say the unnamed authors of “The Key,” published by the Center for the Practice of Zen Buddhist Meditation in Mountain View, CA.
“If you think you can feel better by doing something else, or being something else, or being somewhere else, then feel better. Don’t be confused by thinking you need to do something else, or be something else, or be somewhere else. JUST BE CONTENT TO FEEL BETTER. (It can save a great deal of time, energy and money.)”