Just about everyone I know is metaphysically-oriented, so I regularly hear a lot of powerful ideas. As a result, I’m always making mental and written notes.
A professional hypnotist coming out of a painful divorce recently said to me, “WHERE THERE IS NO FORGIVENESS, THERE IS A KARMIC TIE.” She continued to elaborate, saying, “I certainly don’t want to have to reincarnate and go through this again, so forgiveness is at the top of my priority list. If I can truly let him go with forgiveness, the next time around he’ll have to find someone else with a karmic configuration matching his own need of learning.” I agreed.
My questions to you: Is there anyone in your life you have not forgiven? Do you accept that if you do not forgive, you will come back together to work it out in a future life?
While recently enjoying a Sunday afternoon talking with several friends, one woman expressed how angry she was at someone we all knew. Another friend said, “Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis once said to a friend, ‘ONLY AMATEURS STAY MAD.’” That statement got the attention of everyone within listening distance and generated an enjoyable discussion.
My question to you: Who are you mad at?
A friend of ours told us about creating a line of products, which cost him his life savings. He was elated when a big company offered to buy his products but was depressed when their offer came in at $4000. “At least he got a lot of experience,” Roberta said.
I felt deserved more and said, “EXPERIENCE IS WHAT YOU GET WHEN YOU DON’T GET WHAT YOU WANT.” I wish I could remember who said that so I could credit them properly. But all too often I’ve rationalized similar situations with that kind of line.
My question to you: Is there an area of your life where you’re not being compensated appropriately? If so, what can you do to get what you want?
“WE MOVE TOWARD PLEASURE AND AWAY FROM PAIN, THAT’S JUST WHAT IS,” said a therapist friend in a recent e-mail. We were exchanging ideas about handling an unpleasant situation.
My questions to you: Is there anything in your life you’re pulling away from? What are you moving towards? Is that where you really want to go?
“YOUR SOUL IS ALWAYS NUDGING YOU TOWARD GROWTH CHOICES,” said a friend over lunch. I laughed in response and agreed. The words “growth choice” or “growth opportunity” are New Age buzz words for coming face to face with a situation that will be challenging, which means you’re going to be tested. Your decision generates an opportunity and the outcome provides the lessons.
My question to you: Is your soul calling you to make any growth choices at this time?
I’ll leave you with this thought: GROWTH RESULTS FROM RISK, WHICH IS A MATTER OF COMMITTING TO ACTIONS YOU CAN’T CONTROL.
YOU ARE ALWAYS FREE TO START OVER. No matter what your problem, when something is not working, you can decide to stop playing. If you are experiencing friction or feeling resentment, your soul may be calling for you to end this ... so you can start that.
This does not mean that you cannot succeed, but your soul may be telling you that the direction you are going is not taking you where you want to be. And by admitting that an aspect of your life is not working, you are freed to begin moving in a new direction that will work.
Before deciding to start over, you may want to explore any personal fears that are motivating the need to begin again. Resentment if a fear-based emotion obviously based upon you wanting someone else to be the way you want them to be. Is that justified? And know that if you are holding on to a past hurt, the other person is keeping you a prisoner in the here and now.
Assuming you can release any fear-based emotions (especially blame) relating to your wanting to start over, the best place to begin self-processing is to explore what is true for you. Being true to yourself is more important than your fear of consequences? When you are not true to yourself you are living in fear.
You also do not want to live in fear of what others might think about you starting over.
Once you have decided to start over, it will be time to stop explaining yourself to other people. It is your right to offer no excuses or justifications for your decisions or behavior. You may want to explain why you have acted in a particular way to those with whom you share a close relationship, but you do not owe anyone an explanation. Excuses and explanations weaken your position.
We all find ourselves in positions in which others imply that we owe them an explanation. Most of us are so well trained that we react automatically and comply with their wishes without thinking. All too often we explain ourselves even when no one has asked “why.”
It is often hardest not to offer an explanation to a good friend, but why should a friend force you to explain your actions? If your friend is incapable of accepting your rights then maybe she is incapable of relating to you on any basis but manipulation.
To start over also means leaving behind your old ideas about yourself.