“There is no vitality to the past except the life our minds give to it. The only thing the past is good for is to keep us stuck in the old patterns from which we’re trying to liberate ourselves. Our personal histories are the parts of our lives which hold us where we are,” says Swami Chetanananda in “Choose To Be Happy.”
If we cannot expand our awareness beyond our past -- beyond our limitations -- how can we possibly hope to grow? And do not compare the present to a past that is over and done, or you are courting real unhappiness.
People will tell you to learn from the past. Good advice. But learning what you “don’t want” will not support you for long. “Don’t want” doesn’t work. What do you want?
“Mind lives in the past because it lives in knowledge,” says Osho in “Guida Spirituale.” “Knowledge means that which you have known, understood, learned. And existence is now and mind is then; existence is here and mind is always there. Mind looks backwards; it is like a rear-view mirror. If you are backing your car the rear-view mirror is okay, but if you are going forward then it is dangerous to go on looking in the rear-view mirror. And if you become fixated on the rear-view mirror you are bound for an accident. You are in great danger, you are being suicidal. Life always moves forwards; it has no possibility of going backwards.”
Some counselors would have you searching your past for understanding to help you heal your stresses and dramas. But according to Swami Chetanananda. “All you’ll find in tension is more tension. Believe me, if you insist on standing in and sifting through garbage, the only thing you’re going to become is dirty at best and ill at worst. Reliving stress does not relieve stress; obsession with trauma can only traumatize.”
As a final thought, consider that your “ego” is a result of the past. So to give up ego means to give up your history. Your whole history. All that you have been up until this moment in time. But if you would drop your ego, you would be free of the past. This is not something you do one time and have it handled. Releasing the past has to be done regularly, otherwise it will accumulate. Every moment, the present turns into the past, so if you continue to collect, a new ego will arise.
Do not live in the past. Do not live for the future. Live in the timeless NOW. Easier said than done, but certainly a worthy goal.
Destiny leads those who will. Those who won’t, it drags.
How much of my life is predestined? After years of research and writing in this field, it remains the number one unanswered question for me. I am, however, convinced the answer is different for everyone. I have no doubt we each set up this lifetime with a soul blueprint laying out key experiences and meetings with other people destined to join us on our earthly journey.
At the same time, we need to factor in free will.
I’m still trying to figure the free will/destiny aspects of a recent case that feels right out of the twilight zone.
Some time ago, at the International Federation of Hypnosis Conference in Long Beach, CA, I presented a workshop and during post-conference, trained professional hypnotists in past-life regression techniques.
One of the group sessions included a “Back-to-the-Cause Regression.” This session allows participants to find the cause of a problem wherever it began -- in this life or a past life. During the follow-up discussion, a female participant (a practicing hypnotherapist) explained she went into hypnosis looking for the cause of her ongoing physical pain, which modern medicine has been unable to resolve.
The hypnotherapist explained that in regression all she saw was a little girl about seven years of age, standing looking out a window. The girl was terribly sad because her mother had died and her father had no time for her. She had no playmates. “She was so lonely,” my subject said.
She then asked me if I would individually regress her as a demonstration for the other participants. I agreed and proceeded to hypnotize and direct her back to the cause of the physical pain. She again saw the little girl and could not move past the images. I said a silent prayer asking for guidance. Intuitively, I realized the little girl was not my client in the past, she was another entity who was right here, right now.
I asked my subject to communicate with the girl. This worked and the girl said her name was Jessica. We discovered she had died at age 10 in terrible pain, which she evidently carried with her into spirit. “I don’t hurt when I’m in you,” she said.
My subject, a mother, evidently allowed Jessica to come in, and in so doing, she inadvertently took on the girl’s physical pain. Classic entity attachment. I don’t know how, when or why this happened. Entities can enter during times of depression, extended anger/negativity, an accident, or as a result of excessive use of drugs/alcohol. There are receptivity factors, which might include opening to an entity out of empathy.
I called in Jessica’s real mother, who asked her daughter to leave with her and go to the light. But Jessica was too fearful to leave my subject’s body. Eventually, I had all the other seminar participants come over and lay their hands upon my subject. I directed an intense energy build up, to the point we could feel the heat in the palms of our hands. “On the count of three we’ll all release the energy and Jessica this is going to force you out into your mother’s waiting arms. One, two, three.”
It worked. Jessica was forced out and left with her mother. My subject awakened with a surprised look on her face. Prior to this session, her hip had been hurting so bad she could barely sit in a chair. She stood up saying, “My hip doesn’t hurt. I feel so much better.”
Cause and effect. Wisdom erases karma.
Was my subject destined to express compassion to help the child and thus learn a powerful lesson? Was it some kind of karmic payback? I don’t know. This is either a random universe and there is no meaning to life, or there is some kind of plan. My life work tells me there is a plan, and the only plan that makes logical sense is karma.
Which brings us right back to destiny.