Resistance is fear, which is negative programming. In addition, there is a universal law which states: "What you resist you draw to you." As long as you resist something, you are locked into it and you perpetuate its influence in your life.
Thus, it will make you life much simpler not to resist, "what is." Some things are facts. Income taxes exist ... that's what is. Gravity exists ... that's what is. Your mate is quiet and soft-spoken ... that's what is. You can spend your time attempting to change what is, but there isn't much you're going to do about it. Instead, concentrate your efforts upon that which you can change.
The positive or negative qualities you react to inn others are a reflection of the same qualities within you. They are a mirror for you and if you are aware, you will learn from the mirror. How does this concept reflect in your current relationships?
STOP ASKING, "WHY DID YOU DO THAT?"
"Those who justify themselves do not convince." --Lao-Tzu
When you ask, "why did you do that?" you show a lack of awareness. You seek reasons and reasons early exist. People always act emotionally, doing what they want to do. They invent logical reasons to justify their actions to themselves and others, yet the reasons are just rationales and excuses and rarely have much to do with the facts. The reasons don't really matter and no one could possibly know what they are. They lieu buried in your viewpoint, which is the result of the past programming of all your lifetimes.
The urge to prove oneself right jiggles the sense of ludicrousness. The Master of Life appreciates the man who can get off it.
ATTACHED MIND: When your state of mind is always changing from positive to negative as outside conditions change.
EXAMPLES: 1. Your relationship is going well and you are very happy, yet when your mate says something to irritate you, your response is anger. 2. You get a new car and you are happy about it until someone runs into it; then you become depressed. 3. You give a talk and receive an enthusiastic response from the audience, which makes you feel good. Afterwards, through, someone whose opinion you respect critics your presentation and you feel bad.
DETACHED MIND: When your state of mind fluctuates only from positive to neutral as outside conditions change. You accept all the warmth and joy in life while detaching from the negativity by allowing to flow through you without affecting you.
EXAMPLES: 1. Your relationship is going well and you are very happy. When your mate says something to irritate you, your response is neutral. You realize that it isn't what someone says to you that affects you ... it is only what you think about what they say that affects you ... it is what you add to it. You are also aware that their response is only an expression of their past programming. The way they relate to you, they would relate to anyone who respresented to them what you represent. 2. You get a new car and you're very happy about it. One day someone runs into it, causing you the inconvenience of arranging to resolve the problem. You certainly aren't happy about what happened to your car, yet you accept that's what is and all the resistance and depression in the world won't change what is ... so why bother? Why complicate or program your life negatively? You simply do what you have to do to resolve the situation with a minimum of inconvenience. 3. You give a talk and receive an enthusiastic response from the audience, which makes you feel good. Afterwards someone you respect criticizes your presentation and you respond, "Thank you for your opinion; that's what you got out of it." You are unaffected by the remark. You know your critic is speaking from his viewpoint, which has nothing to do with the facts. You know your talk was well received and you've detached form the need to be right.
To develop a detached mind means to detach only from the negativity in your life. It does not mean having no feelings or sensations such as hunger or pain. When you eliminate the negativity you leave more time and room for love and warm interaction. When you cease to be concerned about negativity you'll be more likely to enter into what you do with nothing held back, free to be entirely at one with any circumstances.
(somewhat appropriate for today’s issues!)
Masks are designed to keep out pain; thus they also keep out joy. Fear is the only reason to wear a mask, and fear is the only problem that exists between people.
Wearing masks takes a great deal of energy and causes you to “stuff” your real feelings. “Stuffing” is repression and it is impossible to repress forever. It will come out in undesirable ways, such as adverse health or negative behavior toward others. The price of wearing masks can be very heavy.
In contrast, when you are straight and direct in your communications with others there is no energy drain. Be assertive enough to grant others their human rights, while demanding them for yourself and you’ll rise above the need of masks.