Here’s a concept to consider:
Everything that surrounds you is an extension of you. Your mate, children, home, furniture, car, pets, yard, office, and career are all physical expressions of your belief system and attitudes. Your environment is a manifestation of your energy and core beliefs, expressing your self-image and cultural overview.
And what mind has created, mind can change.
Change begins with the acceptance of new beliefs. Beliefs generate your thoughts and emotions, which create your experiences. If you aren’t happy with your current life and want to change it, you need to change your core beliefs about allowing yourself to experience what you desire.
Your disharmonious beliefs are like a cage, restricting your potential and your life. But if you want to escape from the cage, you must first recognize that it exists and you’re not free. YOU CANNOT CHANGE WHAT YOU DO NOT RECOGNIZE.
Sadly, most people are unaware they exist in a self-created prison.
What can you learn about yourself by examining your key life areas as an extension of you-- a manifestation of your energy and core beliefs:
Let’s say, as an example, your yard and office are a mess. This may be a manifestation of a lack of control in your life. You would be served by cleaning up these areas as first steps of taking control of your life. Explore how this lack of control is reflected other areas. What do you want? Begin mind programming with techniques that follow in the next example.
If your primary relationship no longer reflects who are, explore your part in creating the way it is. Who have you become? Then consider what you desire to happen--be honest. Once you have clarity of intent, you can begin to program new beliefs in keeping with your desires.
Programming: Behavior wags the tail of feelings, so act in keeping with your desires and new feelings will follow. Visualize what you desire as if it were already so. Create vivid mental movies in which you’re living the life you desire you to live. Leave personalities out of the visualizations. If you visualize your mate doing something you want them to do, but it isn’t in keeping with who they are, you’re using black power and creating karma. Instead, visualize yourself living the life you desire with a loving (faceless) spouse. That way, if it’s your karma to bond with someone new, you’re not programming yourself into a corner.
Also, in meditation or self-hypnosis, give yourself positive suggestions worded as if what you desire were already accomplished. Self-talk--positive affirmations spoken out loud while you’re driving or home alone, is also powerful programming.
Use Dick Sutphen mind programming CDs. (You could have predicted that.)
Do you know someone who thinks they’re always right? No matter the situation, they are the final word? It will help you to understand they were programmed to be exactly the way they are. And you can use the knowledge to your advantage.
Your subconscious mind is a memory bank and operates very much like a computer. It’s programmed for survival and for you to be “right.” Everything you consider saying or doing is quickly run through your data banks, comparing the present to related past experiences. Your computer then approves your actions as compared to the past, for in the past you “survived.”
Computers are logically programmed machines and cannot be wrong. To be wrong is a malfunction. If your subconscious computer allowed you to be wrong, its survival is threatened. So, the only way it can work is to make you feel correct. It does not reason and it does not care if you get what you want out of life. It just needs to be right to protect itself, even if you lose the game.
To rise above this programming, learn to be aware of your programming so you can detach from the buttons that cause you to act like a robot. A robot has no choice in the way it acts. It has wiring and circuits that are set so when a button is pushed, it reacts according to programming. In many areas of your life you’re programmed the same way. When your button is pushed you need to be right. Even if you’re not right, you’ll find some way to justify yourself. Only those with enlightened awareness of how human beings work understand this. Winning the game is far more satisfying than getting to be right.
Years ago I had the following discussion in one of my seminars:
“Can the need to be right come from past-life programming?” asked Anita, a pretty woman in her mid-twenties.
“We are all programmed to need to be right, just as we’re programmed to stand and walk on our feet,” I replied. “But an excessive need to be right might go back to a past-life cause.”
“But what do you do? My fiancé has to be right about everything, all the time. No one else is ever right. It’s enough to drive you nuts.” She rolled her eyes at the ceiling.
“Do you want to remain with him?”
“Of course, I love him.”
“Then you’d better develop an enlightened attitude allowing him to be right while you win the game. You have to learn to override your own ‘rightness’ button. Knowing how he is programmed to function, you can let him be right. Remember, unless you allow him to be right, his survival is threatened and there is going to be trouble. So you can quickly allow him to be right with a phrase such as, ‘I understand how you feel.’ In so doing, you learn to override your own ‘rightness’ button. Knowing how he is programmed to function, you can let him be right. You’re not admitting he is right, you’re just taking him off ‘tilt.’ His survival will no longer be threatened and he can concentrate upon the problem.”
Winning the game is far more satisfying than getting to be right.