In his book, “The Dragon Doesn’t Live Here Anymore,” Alan Cohen tells how he decided to attend a concert at the last minute. He left late, was held up in traffic and had trouble finding a parking space. Arriving at the box-office after the concert had begun, the only tickets left were in the back of the balcony.
As he sat down in his seat, an elderly man took the seat beside him. “Gee, too bad we got stuck way back here,” Alan said.
The man replied, “Oh, it’s absolutely perfect; we just get what we earn by right of consciousness.”
Alan had known about the concert for months, but vacillated in his decision to attend. His interest was uncertain, so he ended up with a seat where his view of the concert was uncertain. The people sitting in good seats were certain they wanted to attend and had purchased their tickets well in advance.
You are where you are because of your consciousness. You may see this as good or bad, but like it or not, things are exactly the way they are meant to be for you to fulfill this portion of your personal growth on planet earth.
You always end up where you belong. Wait to the last minute to attend a concert, you get bad seats. Think primarily negative thoughts, you spawn negative experiences. Try to control your mate, you sow the seeds of dissension.
Alan ends his story saying, “Despite all the questions raised by our meandering minds, we are in our right place, doing exactly what we need to be doing, at exactly the right time. Because life is a school, we are always in the class that we have chosen to learn the lessons we need to master. Sometimes it is fun, and sometimes we have to work at it a bit, but it is always appropriate.”
Right of consciousness = cause and effect = karma
When you live with expectations and desires, it follows you want to control outcomes. You want things to unfold in your favor. But you can’t control outcomes in life. The best you can hope to do is increase the odds through wisdom.
If you’re desiring a particular outcome, step back and ask yourself, “What’s the fear associated with the outcome?”
Explore the fear, including the worst that might happen if things did not turn out in your favor. If you’re committed to an outcome, the fear will be related to loss: The loss of love, loss of control, loss of finances, or the loss of self-esteem. Which applies to your situation?
Then ask yourself, “What if I could take the fear out of my desire?”
If there were no fear, the outcome would not matter. Logical.
So we’re back to resolving fear, a subject I write about a lot, because I’m working on it all the time.
As New Agers, we believe we can create our own reality, and I know this to be true, when we’re talking about finding happiness and fulfillment and living an abundant life. Reality is created by the way we view and accept what is. But don’t confuse this with controlling outcomes that in any way effect other people.
In other words, if you want if you want Leigh to fall in love with you, that is not within your power to control, no matter how many mind-programming CDs you use. The same is true with winning the pageant, getting your book accepted by a major publisher, or desiring a beautiful sunset.
Expectations and the desire to control do not work. Both are fear-based emotions, which we incarnated to rise above.
Many New Agers believe in controlling their thoughts. But it can’t be done. You can catch yourself when you’re thinking negative. You can use thought-stopping techniques which condition you, over time, to reduce fearful thinking. But out-and-out control of your thoughts isn’t an option.
What you can control is your behavior--your actions.
Mystics have always said a wise seeker learns to live without desire. Easier said than done. Probably not going to happen in this lifetime, but finding a self-actualized balance seems to me a worthy goal.