To want something you do not have and take for granted what you do have is a common character flaw.
Wanting something you do not have is desire. Desire is life. Look around you and much of what you see is the result of someone’s desire. And there is a conflict. As a spiritual seeker you probably want to live in the NOW, but desire takes you from the now into a fantasy world of a non-existent future. Sacrificing today, for a tomorrow that may never come, can easily become a life pattern.
Desires are disruptive because if they are not fulfilled, you will be frustrated. And oh so often, when your desires are fulfilled, you will come to realize there is no satisfaction in your attainment.
In “The Open Door,” Osho says, “Fulfillment never comes through desire; fulfillment is the fragrance of a non-desiring mind. When you feel fulfilled there will be no birth again because there will be no need: you don’t have any hankering. When you feel fulfilled you are finished. Then your training on this planet is complete, then your training in this body is complete; you need not have another body.”
When you take for granted what you do have, there is no “attitude of gratitude.”
From a karmic perspective, spiritual seekers ideally feel grateful to everyone they interact with in an important way, because everyone is your teacher. You incarnated to balance your karma and fulfill your dharma. To accomplish this, while still in spirit, you set up unions and circumstances to resolve old conflicts, learn needed lessons, and provide you with opportunities to be compassionate.
Many years ago, while conducting a seminars with author Richard Bach, we were sitting in a hotel room talking about his soon to be released book, “The Bridge Across Forever.” Richard had sent me the bound proofs in advance of publication. I was shocked at how a manager had ripped him off, resulting in the loss of everything he owned--even the copyrights on his books.
“I guess I owed him karma,” Richard said. No animosity. No blame. He understood that the manager had allowed him to balance an old debt--something to be grateful for.
We are often ungrateful to those closest to us, much less those who abandoned us, or hurt us, or ripped us off, or let us down. Do not wait until you return to spirit before realizing you have many people to be grateful to, including those who would least appear to be the recipients of your good will.
The Universal Law of Resistance says that which you resist you draw to you, and you will perpetuate it’s influence upon your life. You’ve already heard that many times.
Resistance is fear, so it is something you need to karmically resolve. The Law of Resistance assures that you overcome your fears by repeatedly confronting them until you learn detachment.
Another aspect of the Law of Resistance says, that which you resist out of fear, you become. It not in this lifetime, in a future incarnation.
“The Game of Life and how to play it” by Florence Schvel Shinn was published in 1925, and is the first book I am aware of that teaches the power of affirmations and The Law of Attraction. Here is an excerpt demonstrating what Shinn called The Law of Nonresistance.
“I have a friend who said nothing could induce her to walk under a ladder. I said, ‘If you are afraid, you are giving in to a belief in two powers, Good and Evil, instead of one. As God is absolute, there can be no opposing power, unless man makes the false of evil for himself. To show you believe in only One Power, God, and that there is no power of reality in evil, walk under the next ladder you see.’
“Soon after, she went to her bank. She wished to open her box in the safe-deposit vault, and there stood a ladder on her pathway. It was impossible to reach the box without passing under the ladder. She quailed with fear and turned back. She could not face the lion on her pathway. However, when she reached the street, my words rang in her ears, and she decided to return and walk under it. It was a big moment in her life, for ladders had held her in bondage for years. She retraced her steps to the vault, and the ladder was no longer there! This so often happens! If one is willing to do a thing he is afraid to do, he does not have to,
“It is the law of nonresistance, which is so little understood.
“Someone has said that courage contains genius and magic. Face a situation fearlessly, and there is no situation to face; it falls away of its own weight.
“The explanation is, that fear attracted the ladder on the woman’s pathway, and fearlessness removed it.
“Thus the invisible forces are ever working for man who is always ‘pulling the strings’ himself, through he does not know it. Owing to the vibratory power of words, whatever man voices, he begins to attract. People who continually speak of disease, invariably attract it.”
We cannot be too careful with our words.