The primary reason people are not as happy or fulfilled as they desire to be is that they do not know exactly what they want. Sometimes, even when they think they know what they want, they fool themselves because the object is desired for the wrong reasons. If this is “the first day of the rest of your life,” ask yourself exactly what you want to do with it. Your subconscious mind can then assist you in manifesting your desires.
Everyone wants happiness, but what that usually mean is that they want to end the unhappiness or conflict in their lives. That is certainly within their power, too, if they have clarity and are willing to act. But it’s not the same thing. True happiness is found internally, not externally. It is generated by a healthy attitude toward what happens in your life, by pursuing meaningful goals and by believing in yourself.
It is my belief that you must have goals or a strong general direction in order to take control of your life. When you don’t plan a life direction, you are making a choice, but inaction is no choice! Your subconscious mind generates the events in your life. If your thinking has been negative, you can be assured of moving toward potentially negative events. Thoughts are things—they create circumstances by programming your subconscious mind.
If you don’t have goals or lack clarity of intent, start exploring what you would really love to do—something so enjoyable that you’d be playing rather than working. Don’t even be logical in your search. When you become clear about what you want, everything will fall into place. Once you have pledged this direction, things begin to happen almost magically, as if you were a magnet drawing into your experience whatever is necessary for manifestation. The key to success is to have great emotional desire and no indecisiveness at all. The greater your emotional desire, the more energy you will generate to fulfill the goal.
You may want to meditate upon the clarity of your intent regarding your primary relationship, friends and family, career and level of success, spirituality, civic service, and any other area that is Important to you.
Peace and light,
"Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain, and most fools do." - Benjamin Franklin
My wife’s guide has said to her many times over the years, “Try never to let others change who you are.” Like many of us working to become self-actualized, Roberta does her best to be calm and not to over-react. We are living in some very polarized times and we are both working at not responding to what is happening on the political front. It’s difficult not to become upset, but just as Roberta’s guide points out, if you don’t believe you are an angry, hateful person, then don’t become one to defend your position. It’s not worth it. You don’t want to become what you revile.
Holding a copy of my book, “The Oracle Within,” Roberta reminded me of my own words regarding what she is experiencing.
The Oracle Within
THE LAW OF RESISTANCE
What you resist you draw to yourself. As long as you resist something, you are locked into combating it and merely perpetuate its influence in your life. Resistance is fear, something you need to karmically resolve. You must let go of the fear by encountering it until you learn to consciously detach from what you view to be negative.
You must learn to yield to an oncoming force in such a way as to render it harmless and, at the same time, change its direction by pushing it from behind instead of resisting it from the front. A Master of Life doesn’t oppose things, nor does he attempt to change circumstances by asserting himself against them. Instead, he goes with the flow, yielding to its full force and either pushing it slightly out of direct line or moving it around in the opposite direction without ever encountering its direct opposition. This is the principle of controlling life by going along with it.
You need to understand that what you deny to others will be denied to you. What you deeply believe defines your experience. What you feel strongly about and what you say creates your reality. For example, if you resent wealthy people, you’ll never be wealthy. If you are irritated by other people’s success, you will be denied success. If you’re jealous of someone else’s loving relationship, you will be denied an ideal relationship.
Negative emotions work against you because you can’t attain that which you resent. Your negative attitudes program a cause and effect response in your subconscious mind—karma. The purpose of karma is to teach and in this case, to instruct you by denying you what you would deny others. Karma is trying to show you your attitudes are based upon emotions you need to transcend.
"Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values." - Dali Lama