When you are happy you are also more likely to be healthy—you have fewer physical ills, you age slower and live longer. If you stop to think about it, you’ll realize that just about every decision you make is based on what you think will bring you more happiness. This might best be defined as a state of well-being—one that is filled with positive feelings toward yourself and the world.
One the most important ingredients of a happy life is to love yourself. High self-esteem is the cornerstone of happiness and mental health and one of the best ways to increase your self-esteem is to value being more than belonging. This means that you value who you are and what is right and true for you more than you worry about being accepted by society and what other people think. This can earn you the label of a rebel and will often generate resistance from those whose self-esteem binds them to the dictates of society.
But don’t take their negative input personally. If you feel criticized, or someone says something negative to you, don’t take it as an attack on your self-worth. The idea is to begin transforming the way you experience your life. Realize that what someone else says or does, short of physical violence, does not affect you. Other people see you through their veil of old programming and you see them the same way. Neither side can be truly objective and accurately reflect the way things are.
Make it alright with yourself to let other people think they’re right and not care. For a person with truly high-self-esteem, being is more important than belonging.
A piece of advice that may apply for the upcoming family and friends gatherings at Thanksgiving. Peace and light from both Roberta and I.
When people hate, they always look for allies—the less justified the grievance, the more pressing the desire. The more that person wrongs someone they hate, the more fuel they add to their own hatred. This is how humans work. The one who hates has to silence his guilty conscious, and he does this by convincing himself and others that you really deserve punishment. He cannot feel indifference or pity for someone wronged; he must hate and persecute or leave the door open to self-contempt. Hatred can give meaning to an empty life. Therefore, understand that the one who hates is to be pitied.
You can’t change a hateful person, but you can change how you react. When you can let go of your expectations of approval or control, you begin to let go of YOUR anger, resentment and blame. The ideal self-actualized response is to allow the negativity to flow through you without affecting you.
Meditate upon how you can best rise above the situation through positive thinking and positive actions.
We send light and love to all those who were killed and/or terrorized in Las Vegas and New York City.
Peace and light, Dick Sutphen