Other people are a mirror for you to see yourself within. The traits you respond to in others, you recognize in yourself, both positive and negative. The mirror has four primary manifestations: 1. That which you admire in others you recognize as existing within yourself; 2. That which you resist and react to strongly in others is sure to be found within yourself; 3. That which you resist and react to in others is something that you are afraid exists within you, and 4. That which you resist in yourself, you will dislike in others.
In other words, you have chosen to reincarnate upon the manifest plane to learn to rise above the effects of fear. Those fears will always be reflected in your reactions to others, thus your goals are very obvious once you recognize how to perceive them. As you let go of the fear, it follows that you open to expressing more unconditional love.
It is time to give up your judgments about yourself. We all have an ego-self that is always thinking and judging, as well as a natural self. Harmony between these aspects of our personality is possible only when the mind is quiet. Your best performance at work, in sports or in psychic perception, is when your mind is quiet and you are not trying. It's the result of just doing what you know how to do, naturally.
This is the Zen attitude of "muga," an awareness of action in which you do not feel that "I am doing it." You cease to calculate or dwell upon winning or losing. You simply do your best, responding to an inner direction which carries you effortlessly through the experience.
Being nonjudgmental of yourself and others does not mean to ignore faults or mistakes. You don't turn off your brain and stop deciding what works and what doesn't. Being nonjudgmental means to observe things as they are (what is) without labeling them either bad or good. Instead, accept that errors are part of learning. Don't judge them, just accept them. Then a speedy correction can follow.
Peace and Light,