The greatest gift you can give to another human being is to be all of who you are. Although you may not realize it, you’re wearing masks to hide who you really are. Whenever you don’t say what you want to say, or smile when you don’t want to smile, or pretend to be someone you aren’t, you’re wearing a mask. The reason you wear it is fear. It’s important to find out what you’re afraid of, and to examine the price you pay. Often the masks aren’t necessary. You’re just wearing them out of habit.
There are hundreds of common masks: The workaholic mask usually helps you avoid something—maybe unwanted social contact or intimate interaction at home. The “poor little me” mask gives you something to talk about and gets you attention. The funny, gregarious mask helps you avoid things—real contact or intimacy—and it covers your insecurity. Exceedingly nice people feel uncomfortable if others aren’t comfortable, or they wear this mask to pump their own egos.
When you are honest and direct there is no mask, no repression. Something to think about as you gather with friends and/or family this holiday season.
Peace and light,