From the last page of my 1976 book, "You Were Born Again To Be Together."
Question: "Being totally idealistic, what would 'real love' be like?
"To begin with, it could not be diminished by anything the other person said or did. Your love would not be dependent upon being loved. You would give freely, without any expectation of return. In an environment of 'real love,' you would allow total freedom to your mate, expecting no more than the other could give. You would love for what the other was You would not expect your mate to change, to be something he or she was not. You would find joy in the other's happiness. To really love someone, you need to be complete within yourself, and without fear. You then will find joy in the positive aspects of your relationship and allow the negatives to simply flow past you, without affecting you.
"Most of us are far from attaining true love. Even if we believe in it, it is sometimes hard to live it. But what a beautiful relationship this involved-detachment would be. By accepting and granting freedom, not out of indifference but out of tenderness and caring, a couple can overcome karma and evolve beyond the level of problems. Since you would no longer be affected by the problems, you would no longer have the problems. Karma would be balanced, and your own wisdom would have erased the need for further learning.
"If fear is the problem, love is the answer. Universal love. The goal of everyone now living upon the earth is to rise above fear and learn love. Most are unaware of this fact, but it is the reason we are reborn, over and over. We all subconsciously seek love, and love's perfection. If we cannot remember what we have forgotten, we will be given another chance to find it, when we are together again."